upgrade kube-state-metrics version

Created by: chaunceyjiang

fix this issue https://kubesphere.com.cn/forum/d/6344-kube-state-metricsv1bate1

use kube-state-metrics:v2.3.0 image

watch ingresses resources

kubesphere repo must have kube-state-metrics:v2.3.0

change the parameter --metric-blacklist to --metric-denylist

https://github.com/kubernetes/kube-state-metrics/blob/master/docs/cli-arguments.md